Foopets | Real Virtual Pets Online

Member Login

Needing advice -Trigger Warning

Medium

Trigger Warning for abuse/death

I don’t ever really like to get to personal online or with people I don’t really know, but I think telling a little of my story won’t hurt. As I think a lot of people have gone through the same situation I have. Anyways, I am considering selling my Oddstat because he was gotten all on the purpose of representing my at the time boyfriend. I was with this boyfriend for six years of my life, and was engaged to him for a year. He was not the greatest guy to me while I was in high school, but I had no friends and was bullied pretty badly by classmates. My family has never been a loving and supporting family much either. So I have always felt pretty alone, but Chris seemed to make it better because at least I had someone to talk to. As I got older the abuse got worse, a few times I was attacked while driving, beaten for walking in front of the TV while he was playing video games, hit during arguments. He ended up breaking five of my teeth. But I just thought no one else would love me, and honestly I didn’t really mind if he ended up killing me. As I didn’t really want to deal with life anymore anyways. When I finally gained the courage to leave him in 2017 breaking off my engagement. I ended up homeless,even though it was my rental home and the car was mine. I had stupidly agreed to put his name on everything along with mine. So he thought by refusing to move out and so on he would convince me to stay. Later I ended up buying my SUV witch my grandpa helped cosign for as a 21 year old making $11.50 at Petco who already had an auto loan (even though I no longer paid for this loan) and rent to make couldn’t really get another loan on her own. As for the living situation. My parents nor would grandparents would take me in. My mom wanted to foster kids so if I lived there since I wasn’t apart of the screening from the beginning I would make the process longer, and my grandma claimed they had no room. But my grandparents did help me get my new SUV so I am grateful! After some time I was able to stay on my moms couch with for a week until my new rental place became available. As I would not leave any of my animals behind so I had to wait for housing to become available, this process took a little over two months. I won’t go into the whole story, but I ended up in another bad situation and moved to Missouri. Where I am now happily married and own my home. Ever since I left Chris it sorta pains me to see his name on my profile. I have tried to rename the oddie, but it just doesn’t feel right. I have considered trading him off for a new oddie. But I have had this dog for eight years now and feel a little weird wanting to replace him. I promise my pets that I make search threads for forever homes, so I would feel like a lair as well. But I feel like I have a good enough reason to trade him for another oddie. I also feel silly for even writing this whole thing, but I was wondering if I wasn’t alone with this feeling?

Medium
Useful 15

You know what Lexi? I think you are perfectly justified in wanting to trade or sell your oddie. You have a great reason why and I think anyone would understand, especially if they were in your shoes! I’m sorry you had to go through all of that. I’m so glad that you got yourself out of that situation and now have your life in order and are happy. /hugs/ ❤️

Medium
Useful 10

You know what Lexi? I think you are perfectly justified in wanting to trade or sell your oddie. You have a great reason why and I think anyone would understand, especially if they were in your shoes! I’m sorry you had to go through all of that. I’m so glad that you got yourself out of that situation and now have your life in order and are happy. /hugs/ ❤️

Medium
Useful 5

I also absolutely agree with Sandy. But having said that, maybe changing his name and profile may help? Or maybe you could change it up as a memory and a reminder that you survived and came out even stronger.

I’m so sorry you went through that, I couldn’t even begin to imagine.

You’re worth so much more than you could ever imagine.

Medium

From my perspective, certain pets trigger strong emotions with me. For that reason, many of then were sold/traded/deleted when I left in 2017. I still miss them, but sadly i remember the hurt that the pets evoked within me. (i sold one to e member who then resold it after she promised me she would not – and I had no hope of getting him back).

If this pet evokes that type of emotional attachment and painful memories, than merely changing its name or scene will not change the emotions that you associate with the pet.

I am certain that other members will be more than happy to trade or buy him.

You are important…do not let anyone take that away from you.

And, thank you for sharing your story.

Medium

Honestly, I didn’t except nice feedback. So thank you so much to everyone, it really means a lot to me that people are being supportive! I am not 100% sure on giving him up nor am I sure on keeping him as he is one of the pets I am most bonded too. But it does bring a lot of hurt when I see him and the name. But I would hate to trade and regret and he’s gone for good.

Medium
Useful 5

exactly what Sandy said!! ^

I also had a pet who was not directly named my ex’s name, but had the same energy and was named something that reminded me of him. I didn’t have him near as long, he wasn’t an oddie, but still I totally understand why you’d want to find him a new home. And as for the pup I found a new home, the user is now a good friend of mine and is taking great care of him :-) sometimes I still miss the pup but I just visit his link real quick and play with him, and I know he’s happy and in a good place. hope this helps you decide what you’d like to do with him<3

also, I’m super proud of you for getting out of that situation. You’re worth so much, and it made my heart happy to see that you fought your butt off for the life you deserve to have now. <3

Medium
Useful 5

I agree with Sandy. Glad you are happy now in your life.